There are times when you may feel that you are doing well while the other times it may seem nothing is moving at all. What is that makes things seems so different during different times. We are aware that there is some progress yet within there is some kind of conflict on the expectations from self and overall result.
LOOK AT LIFE ACROSS TIME
If you see what you have been able to do in the last month, would be miniscule. If you see what you have done in the last one year, there may be a lot of things that didn’t happen. You may travel frequently, which for the reasons of pandemic, was not possible. In the same way various aspects of life were touched in the recent past.
If we start looking at that tenure, things may seem downside and make us feel belittle. However if we see at what all has happened in the last 5 years, then we can feel happy.
You see in life, there are slow times and fast times. There are times when you are at your best and you may be able to do a lot of things during that time. So when you are on that flow, try to accomplish as much as you can.
See at life from a standpoint of occurrence over time. Over time the good times will be followed by challenging times which will be followed by the days of favorable conditions. As the saying goes, this too shall pass. Keep that in mind.
So if you feel stuck or stranded, look at what you have been able to experience, see and do in the last decade and hope for the next one in the similar light. Stay blessed.
BE CONSIDERATE DURING THIS TOUGH TIMES
Continuous lockdown or lockdown like situation has impacted a lot of us in ways we have never been trained for. We do not have the slightest of experience where in everyone we know is going through it. The scale at which the experience of a virus going around in life as well the sheer response of stopping everything has toppled the fundamental fabric of our society. The response has been demanding and it has taken a long term impact on every common person out there.
Usually the people who are in any particular situation be it natural disasters, wars or any kind of unrest, it is limited to a particular state, country or the continent. But when something becomes a norm for everyone due to things like global crisis or pandemics, things are often unprecedented for those who are experiencing for the first time.
In any war, there are calms between storms. There will be days when we lose faith. Days when our allies turn against us…but the day will never come that we forsake this planet and it’s people.
So when you meet people complaining about their health or their surrounding be considerate to them. It is not a usual time.
When you meet people complaining about their work or imbalance in life, be considerate to them. Wait for things to ease down.
When you find people worried about future, try to talk about something that makes people feel better and avoid thinking too much about the future. The need to the time is to be moving towards simpler life, at least for the time being.
The constant demand of trying to do something or excel might toss off few individuals or group, be considerate to them.
Because all the things that we did to make us happy, free, relaxing and feel pleasant have been revoked from us. So naturally all the drift of time is pulling us down bit by bit until everyone is experiencing the curve in the fabric of our social life. It may be demanding. It may feel that things are slipping by. But some of us must start to hold on to something strong. Since we cannot go out and do things we used to, we may have to adapt to new things or very old things that we are not doing anymore.
Try to take a look at old photographs of your families, events or marriages.
Eat whatever is available in your vicinity. Try to balance out simple food with basic ingredients. Try some new recipe. Eat together and enjoy sharing time.
Watch your favorite shows or movies together with family. Revive all the good times that you had.
Arrange to play games that can be managed at home. If you would like or relax.
If someone is not well, take care of them. Provide healthy food and drink ample water.
If you have to meet someone who stays far off, try to arrange a video call and talk peacefully. Things may seem a bit odd but then the way to go forward is so.
Write if you may. Paint if you like. Play if you wish. Cook if that connects you. Feel good about yourself with whatever that makes you feel better. Do not send out too much negative vibes and for that matter even good vibes. Try to keep life simple and wait for the things to settle down
If you know someone who needs help, then try to get them help in whichever way you can. Make a call if that’s what it takes. Speak nicely to people whom you know and share their emotions.
Try to talk about staying at home as much as possible because the people we know or the people in our life are not aware of the way to go forward. If you feel too much stuck, try to do indoor activites. Arrange for yoga or similar activities.
There are days we are weak and we may feel that we need help, but in time we will learn that we need to try things slowly at our end and help will arrive in whichever form it can.
So my dear fellow Earthling, even though the times are tough and the difficulties doesn’t seem to get any less, believe in yourself and navigate through these times. Together we will reach into the world of better times. We will all thrive and smile soon, for we are fighters. Brave men have shown us examples of fighting through similar times and by remembering them, we will advance ahead into building a safe world in ways each one of us contribute and participate.
Stay safe and be happy in whichever little ways you can. I send out my affection and warmth to all of you. Take care.
A GUIDE TO COPING WITH THE DEATH OF A LOVED ONE
Martha is having difficulty sleeping lately and no longer enjoys doing things with her friends. Martha lost her husband of 26 years to cancer a month ago.
Anya, age 17, doesn’t feel like eating and spends the days in her room crying. Her grandmother recently died.
Both of these individuals are experiencing grief. Grief is an emotion natural to all types of loss or significant change.
Feelings of Grief
Although grief is unique and personal, a broad range of feelings and behaviours are commonly experienced after the death of a loved one.
Sadness. This is the most common, and it is not necessarily manifested by crying.
Anger. This is one of the most confusing feelings for a survivor. There may be frustration at not being able to prevent the death, and a sense of not being able to exist without the loved one.
Guilt and Self-reproach. People may believe that they were not kind enough or caring enough to the person who died, or that the person should have seen the doctor sooner.
Anxiety. An individual may fear that she/he won’t be able to for herself/himself.
Loneliness. There are reminders throughout the day that a partner, family member or friend is gone. For example, meals are no longer prepared the same way, phone calls to share a special moment don’t happen.
Fatigue. There is an overall sense of feeling tired.
Disbelief. This occurs particularly if it was a sudden death.
Helping Others Who Are Experiencing Grief
When a friend, loved one or co-worker is experiencing grief- how can we help? It helps to understand that grief is expressed through a variety of behaviours.
Reach out to others in their grief, but understand that some may not want to accept help and will not share their grief. Others will want to talk about their thoughts and feelings or reminisce.
Be patient and let the grieving person know that you care and are there to support him or her.
YOU ARE THE RADIANCE OF LIFE, LET IT BLOOM
You are the radiance of life
And the spark that lies in you
Oozes to come out blue
Yes there is something different about you
And that’s what makes you special too
For if we do what we faced
We will all be left with no place
So spread your wings wide
For you have to fly over the tide
Carry away all the gloom
So every flower will bloom
SOME PEOPLE ARE LIKE BLACK HOLES ! STAY AWAY FROM THEM
Often certain people are always gloomy and sad. Talking about negative things and events that have spread sadness and heaviness in life. They repeat them all the time and often feel unnecessary over burden without any apparent reason.
If you come in contact with such people, they will over power with their under tone pain and suffering, you will get sucked up into a world of never ending confusion and dejection.
If possible after the very first interaction with such people, try to avoid any kind of exposure to such people.
ARE WE HUMANS TO BE SELF-SUFFICIENT OR COEXISTING OR DEPENDENT ?
One thought – a lion kept in zoo is no more aggressive and gets it’s food on time without much efforts
Does it make lion less enabled for the wild ?
Same way a grown human must fend for self or be provided
If provided does that make them any less capable to deal with the nuances of life
And if not so is it meant to be togetherness and domestication as we live in social structure
But if then so, are we actually still in the process of looking out for each other as in the wild,
Since now the threat is not always equally applicable to all unless it’s a global pandemic
Have we come to a loophole ?